MAKING FRIENDS AS AN ADULT
Don’t you wish meeting people and making friends was as easy as an adult as it used to be when we were kids? Just meet someone, say hey what’s up. Think it’s cool that they’re wearing the same color shirt as you are, and then bam, you just became best friends.
I’m sorry to say that sometimes it’s not that easy to make friends as an adult. However, what I will tell you is that it really doesn’t have to be that much harder! Sure it may be a little more difficult to actually meet new people in the first place, but once you’ve met, keep an open mind. You could just be meeting your new bestie!
One tip I have for meeting new friends, is asking your current friends to introduce you to new people. Sounds silly, but guaranteed they’ll have more friends who are similar to them, which means you’ll probably get along well with them also. Give it enough time and you could just have a new bestie friendship blossoming.
If you’re a little hesitant because you’re not sure if you’ll like the person or really hit it off in the friendship zone, ask your friend to set up something where you can all get together in a mutual setting. (Wine tasting or brunch is a great way to get friends together, meet new friends and keep it all super relaxed at the same time!)
In this day and age, it’s more and more common to meet people on the internet. Be smart and safe about it of course, but don’t be afraid to reach out to people with similar interests. I’ve actually met a few people by reaching out online and now they’re great friends of mine!
Another great way I’ve found that works is to join either a club or activity that sparks your interest. If there are other people attending, you know you have at least one thing in common and that could definitely be used as an ice-breaker when you start up a conversation. Signing up for a yoga class at your local studio, taking a sewing class at a craft store nearby, working out with other mamas in your area. They’re all great ways to meet amazing new people who you have something in common with! And don’t worry if something doesn’t click right away. Like all good relationships, it may take time to get to know each other and really build an awesome friendship.
My last tip is to really be aware of the friends you currently have. Make sure they’re all the kind of friends you want to have around you. Meaning, if they’re fun and uplifting, encouraging on your new ventures, supportive and there for you, then you probably have a GREAT friend you’ll want to keep around. BUT, if they’re constantly negative and talking about anything and everything that could/does go wrong, doubts you and your choices, shuts down ideas you have or things you decide to do, take a second look and decide on if that’s the kind of energy you’ll want to have around you.
Once you cut the ties from the negative friends, you’ll no longer be holding space for those people and that will allow you to attract new friends with the energy you’re looking for. Be open to new people coming in different ways as well. Just because it may not be the typical “oh we became friends like this” sort of way, doesn’t mean it won’t work out.
Now I hope these tips have helped you in some way! I’m always up for making new friends, whether they’re moms as well or even if they’re not. New friends are always fun and it’s great to be able to know easier ways to find them! Now get on out there and meet your new besties!
How did you and your best friends meet?? Let us know in the comments!!
